Empowerment Beyond Sexy – It really is About Busines and Not About Botox

A member of my on the web network is aspect of a new phenomenon – pole dancing parties for females. “It is empowering,” she insists. A news feature for the “Pussycat Dolls” burlesque show at Caesar’s Palace in Las Vegas claims the show is “empowering for all women” who want to be a pussycat inside.

Here’s my concern: Why is it the only socially sanctioned way for a lady to be more “empowered” is to “get her sexy on?” Is the only acceptable type of empowerment to “release your inner slut?” Is that what we’ve gained by way of all the years of feminism?

I am not a prude. Healthier, enjoyable sex in a committed, monogamous relationship is a amazing thing. Superb! But I’d like to live in a world exactly where there are other acceptable strategies for women to be empowered, as well. Truth is speaking up and saying our thoughts honestly and directly is a lot additional “out of the box” than prancing and shimmying around a pole for millions of girls.

Final week there was good hue and cry on “The View” as Rosie O’Donnell and Elizabeth Hasselbeck squared off. BBL didn’t back down this time. The clip of that interview was replayed on FOX, CNN and other networks for days with commentators startled that a pretty, little blonde could argue so forcefully and successfully against big, poor Rosie.

The next day at NBC Studios – someone took a magic marker and drew a moustache on pictures of Elizabeth. Why is it okay for women to “empower themselves” by participating in sexual “male authorized” activities like pole dancing?

Or, empower your self! Purchase all new skin care! What the heck, actually empower oneself and get Botox(TM) injections!!!

C’mon.

Girls are judged – by both males and ladies. Generally it really is not okay when we select to speak up and say our piece – regardless of whether it has to do with our opinions on politics or promoting in a optimistic, win-win way the added benefits of your item or service and how you can assistance your buyers.

As the author of a preferred book written for girls residence-primarily based business enterprise owners to assistance them have much more enjoyable, really feel far more confident and make a lot much more funds I’ve talked with thousands of girls who love their business enterprise – but hate obtaining the word out. It is not just the “how-tos” of promoting and promoting – it’s also about feeling empowered and entitled to say their piece and ask for what they want. Hinting and innuendo is fine in your individual life – but it will never ever cut it in enterprise. You have to ask.

I have advertising mentoring clients who’ve struggled with their personal finances and their firms mainly because they felt completely unsupported, uncomfortable and un-empowered speaking up for themselves and asking for what they want. They don’t feel empowered enough to guide and direct a conversation – which is vital in enterprise to sell anything.

They want to build a greater life for themselves and typically for their families – the American dream. Nevertheless, they were told to ask for something is not great, to count on anything is not great to speak up and speak your worth is not good. Who’s empowering these women so they can achieve their ambitions and aspirations? (That’s a considerable part of my promoting mentoring for some of my customers, btw.) Dancing about a pole is not going to get them there.

Pole dancing and burlesque is fine. It can create some real spice in the bedroom with your man – a superior factor. And I realize its superior physical exercise. But all the sexy moves, feather boas and seven inch stilettos in the planet will not assistance her spend the bills, save for her youngsters college or her retirement – unless she wants to turn out to be a specialist stripper.